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August 23, 2021

Affirmations to Help You Heal from a Painful Childhood

Read the set of related affirmations in this post aloud. It’s important to your conscious and subconscious mind to hear the affirmations said in your own voice. Choose one or two of the affirmations from the set to start working with. You only need one or two affirmations, used consistently, to make a substantial change in your life.

Affirmations are most effective when said aloud. Studies have proven that it’s impossible to think a negative thought and make a positive statement aloud at the same time. Use this principle to halt negative thoughts in their tracks and turn them around.

Say your chosen affirmation loud enough for your mind to hear your voice saying the words and take notice of how you feel as you begin and as you continue your practice. Feeling better? Repeat your chosen affirmation at least twice a day – morning, and night – for at least 30 days, and reinforce your affirmation by writing it in your journal.

Affirmations are powerful, positive sentences that can change your mindset. Don’t focus on challenges and lack, but on healthy self-esteem and unshakeable self-confidence. You can leverage the power of affirmations in your life by beginning an affirmation practice – using one or two favorite affirmations over the course of 30 to 60 days to permanently change your mindset and by extension, your life.

Comment below that you’ve started this process. Add entries in your journal each day as to how you’re feeling. Note the positive changes you’ve made and celebrate them! Send me a note using the contact form and let me know how you’re doing!


Moving from childhood to adulthood can be a real challenge – maturity doesn’t often come automatically. While we continue to get older with respect to time, “growing up” isn’t necessarily a function of time. We all know people who continue to act as if they are children when they’re well past the age of majority.

If you weren’t provided with the minimal conditions to help you develop into a positive, healthy, and centered adult, it can force your inner child to focus on self-preservation instead of your own development. Having to manage your parent’s or caretaker’s feelings and behavior isn’t a fair burden for you to have to shoulder, and it leaves behind lasting effects.

The fallout from your painful childhood can include negative consequences like a higher risk of depression, higher levels of anxiety, obesity, behavioral issues, and even health problems like heart disease or substance abuse. Fortunately, you’re not doomed to deal with the consequences for the rest of your life – there are things you can do to help yourself heal from painful childhood episodes and memories.

One of the greatest factors in helping you to overcome the challenges is to express love for yourself. A deep, true, abiding love for oneself is a critical component for healthy self-esteem, self-confidence, and helps build coping mechanisms that empower you to get through each day.

Now I’m not a doctor or a mental health professional, and I’d strongly encourage you to seek out a qualified mental health professional that will help assess your current condition and help you design a course of treatment. One thing you can do right away to help yourself is to tap into the power of Affirmations. Check out the list of 20 affirmations below, and try speaking them aloud. Notice which ones resonate with you, and make them part of your self-improvement routine on a daily basis. Positive affirmations can help you to increase your belief in yourself and your inherent worth and dignity, and encourage you to define and live into your authentic values. Check out my Affirmations Index Page to see all the different affirmations provided here on the site, and articles to help you start or continue your personal practice.


Affirmations to Help you Heal from a Painful Childhood

I believe my parents/caretakes did the best they could.

My childhood is not my adulthood, today I have myself to take care of me.

The pain I experienced in my childhood has made me stronger today.

I forgive my parents.

I am grateful for the resilience I learned from childhood experiences that serves me today.

I take care of myself today. I nurture myself today. I am there for myself today.

What happened in childhood is in the past. The present is fully within my control.

I choose me.

The abuse I experienced in childhood does not define who I am as an adult.

My life is surrounded by peace, and I feel safe.

What happened to me as a child is not my fault.

I feel connected to others, I am not alone.

My body, mind and spirit belong to me.

When I set boundaries with others, I protect myself and keep myself safe.

Love is all around me, I reach out and I can feel it.

I seek out positive interactions and relationships with others.

I trust myself. I trust other people.

I release my anger, resentment, and ill feelings.

I release guilt and shame.

I release feelings of pain and hurt. I focus on feeling positive, joyous, and peaceful.

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About the Author

Dianne M. Daniels is a wife, mother, grandmother, great-great-aunt, Unitarian-Universalist Minister, Spiritual Director & Companion that empowers intelligent, passionate women to discover and manifest the best of who they are and who they want to be. Dianne's focus is on providing immediately applicable tools, tips, and information that can help you get results. Setting a foundation for lasting change - one day at a time, can happy by using the written word and multi-media input to you absorb wisdom, implement positive change, and develop routines that build your self-esteem, self-confidence, and capacity. Her signature program, The Spiritually Authentic Woman, empowers you to create a new, more joyful life as you let go of living the way OTHERS think you should while discovering your unique, authentic self.

Dianne Daniels

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